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Recently: Unusual Monday Morning

| Posted in Married Life, Mommyhood, Recently

Tune Hotel

Tune Hotel

Tune Hotel

Tune Hotel

Tune Hotel

There was this moment, waking up in a room at Tune Hotel on Monday morning, that was strangely familiar. It happens every time we’re in an unfamiliar place, and I look around to see my little family, and I suddenly have this overwhelming rush of emotions, and I know right then that home is right there with me.

Power went out at past 7:00pm Sunday night, in the middle of a storm, and we found refuge in a nearby hotel where we evacuated for the night. Have you ever tried out Tune Hotel? Very affordable and impressive, I must say. Even though we only stayed half-a-day, the price was very reasonable and certainly worth it. The room was small but very clean. There weren’t a lot of amenities, but the pillows, sheets, and towels were top quality. For an emergency accommodation, we sure got our money’s worth.

We heard the electricity was restored in our area at around 2:00am, but D and the girls were already sleeping soundly by that time.

I woke up on Monday morning, sunshine coming through the glass windows of our small room, and I knew I just had to preserve that moment. I said a quick prayer to God, thanking Him for keeping us safe, and warm, and dry; and for being our shelter in the time of storm, both literally and figuratively.

I looked at my family, still sleeping, squeezed in a queen-sized bed which was our home for the night, and my heart swelled with so much love. Will I ever get used to this (not so) new life? The girls have grown so much, and D and I have been living together for over 3 years, and yet, it still sometimes feels like it hasn’t really sunk in yet. (Are they really my daughters? Is he really my husband? Is this really my life now?)

Anyone can relate to this feeling? Please tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way.

How to Celebrate Your 3rd Wedding Anniversary (Wife Edition)

| Posted in Love Life, Married Life

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Your third year as a married couple is such a great year. By this time you would have adjusted pretty well to living together, and have grown a deeper level of understanding and acceptance of each other. Which means, less fights, more happy conversations, and a messier house. Having children in your 3rd year comes with totally different dynamics too, but the addition of little humans in the house makes it all the more fun!

Here are 8 suggestions to celebrate your third wedding anniversary:

(Disclaimer: These probably won’t apply to you, but it sure did to us.)

1. Wait til the clock strikes twelve and do a happy dance.

On the eve of your anniversary, while the kids are asleep, watch as your husband play some 70s music and grab you up for a dance. (Come and Get You Love is a good one). Dance away. Dance while hugging each other. Dance like you always do when nobody is looking. Do some awkward, embarrassing moves. Savor the moment, just you and him and his arms around you.

After a few minutes of dancing, try to be mindful about odd little things around you, like maybe a hidden camera blinking somewhere on your book shelf. Allow it to sink in that your husband has been capturing the moment on camera. Soon you will see that video uploaded on Facebook and feel your face turn red with embarrassment. Scream a little, maybe slap your husband on the arm several times. But it’s your anniversary so don’t be mad. After a while, you will both laugh at yourselves and think that the video is hilarious.

2. Wake up on the day of your wedding anniversary and thank the Lord together for a new beginning.

Wake up early. Give each other a kiss. Pray together. Remember that waking up beside each other is one of your most favorite times of the day, and you love how you’re able do this every single day for the past 3 years. Marvel at how, this time around, you’re sharing your bed with two beautiful little ones, which makes waking up even more lovely.

Tell each other “I love you” many times. Cuddle. Enjoy the fleeting moment of bliss before you both have to get out of bed and go through the day. Brew some coffee before parting ways, in lieu of breakfast, because you don’t have time to drink coffee together.

It’s your 3rd wedding anniversary and you most likely forgot to take a leave from work, unlike your first 2 wedding anniversaries which were carefully planned and scheduled weeks before. That’s okay, you know you can celebrate later in the day, or any other day for that matter.

3. Don’t expect a bouquet of roses.

You’ll receive a bouquet of roses anyway. Two dozens of them. And a box of chocolates. You both agreed that you’d rather spend the money on milk, or diapers, or children’s books, but deep inside you know you still secretly wish to receive these traditional symbols of love sometimes. Be thankful for having married such a sweet guy.

Take pictures. Post them on instagram. The flowers will dry up almost immediately so gaze lovingly at them as long as you can. Hug your husband tight. You didn’t buy him a gift because you thought you both weren’t buying each other gifts, but remember to buy him that pair of pants he’s been eyeing at the mall the next chance you get. Maybe two pairs of pants. And some new briefs.

4. Ask your mother to watch over the kids while you go out on a date.

Sneak out and celebrate, just the two of you. As much as you want to celebrate with your kids, they’re still too young to tag along on dates. So leave them with their grandma and treat yourselves to a child-free night. That’s okay. As soon as you leave the house, all you’ll be able to talk about is how adorable and beautiful your kids are anyway. It will almost feel like they’re with you.

Wear something nice. Put on some makeup. Brush your hair, for once. Spray some perfume on your clothes, dab some on your neck for good measure. Bring a camera and capture moments. You will want to remember this night forever.

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Optional: Take turns taking each other’s photographs. No one is around to take your photographs together so capture separate images on the same spot and merge them with Photoshop.

5. Try out this restaurant you’ve been wanting to try out.

Give in to your husband’s request to try out this nearby cuisine that serves angus beef belly. Do a quick search on Google to find where it is. Make a quick reservation, just in case. Arrive on time. Pick a table close to the window.

Order that angus beef belly that your husband has been craving for. Order a huge serving. Enjoy the food. Munch slowly. Forget your diet. Talk about happy things, funny things. Laugh to your heart’s content. Remember why you love being around this guy so much. Be thankful that more than just your husband, he is your best friend, and you can laugh hysterically with him.

6. Get a nice long massage at your favorite spa.

Place a call to your favorite spa and tell them you’re on your way. Avail of their special “Couple Package”—the one with Jacuzzi, a private room for two, and 90 minutes of uninterrupted body massage. Thank the staff for giving you a generous discount as their anniversary treat for loyal customers.

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Touch of Grace Spa  Wellness Center

Take your time in the Jacuzzi, you have the whole night. Get ready for a nice long body massage. Relax. Close your eyes. Enjoy the moment knowing that your husband is right on the next massage bed, enjoying himself too. Breathe in the nice aromatic smell that surrounds the room. Forget about everything else. Wake up 2 hours later when your massage is done.

7. Come home to your little ones after a successful wedding anniversary date.

But first, stop by a nearby convenience store to buy some treats for the kids. It’s late but they’re still up waiting for you. Get ready to hear little shrieks, and to have little arms around your neck as you open the door. Hug them a little tighter and longer. You know you just had one of your best dates ever, but nothing still beats coming home to your girls.

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Give your own mom a hug and a kiss, and thank her for always making herself available anytime you call. Tell her she’s the best mom ever, and make mental notes on the kind of parents you want to become. Take your little girls to bed. Read them a book. Give them good night kisses. Tell them you love them.

8. End the day the way it began.

Spend a few more quiet moments with your husband. Embrace each other. Kiss.Tell each other “I love you” many times. Pray together and count your blessings.

Thank the Lord for a great day. Thank Him for the past 3 years. Thank Him for allowing you to come this far. Thank Him for each other. Thank Him for being the greatest author of love there is. Thank Him for good health, for family, for love that knows no bounds. Fill your prayer with gratitude. Only gratitude. Reserve your other prayer concerns for another day.

Be excited for another year of surprises. Drift away to sleep with a full heart.

Bonus: Listen to a new love song, composed just for you.

One week later, wake up to an email alert blinking on your phone, with an mp3 attached, from your (still sleeping) husband. Listen to the song that took him a week to compose, in all its raw, perfectly imperfect beauty. Know that it was recorded overnight while you were sleeping because, after all these years, he still wants to surprise you and write you songs. Wipe tears.

Pause mid-song and give your sleeping husband a kiss. Play the song over and over until you memorize the words. Smile at how incredibly blessed and loved you are. Upload the song and proudly post it on your blog for the whole world to hear.


Three years ago

| Posted in Married Life, Photo Dump

Three years ago today, we were about to come home from our honeymoon, excited to start our life together. Wow. So much has happened since, and I mean that in the most amazing of ways.

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Every once in a while (and by “a while” I mean “a year”), I like having an excuse to relieve memories from our wedding day and go through old photographs. And what better time to do that than now, yes? Besides, my Timehop has been bursting with wedding posts this whole week!

So bear with me for this photo dump of sorts, I can’t help it! It’s that time of the year. :)

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The truth is, even though our wedding day was one of the most special, much-awaited events of our lives, I don’t really remember a lot of details from that day. It was as if I was placed inside a bubble where it was just me and David, and everything else faded in the background and nothing else mattered.

In retrospect, it’s good we had someone else taking photographs that day, without which we probably wouldn’t have a recollection of what was happening outside our little bubble!

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It was such a happy day, and at that point we didn’t think anything can top the happiness that we felt and the joy in our hearts. We were proven wrong, of course, because three years later, God is still giving us reasons to be even happier (and more in love) than we were a year ago. :)

Our wedding is Josiah’s Catering’s Wedding Throwback this week. Check it out!

Remember this 30 Day Blog Challenge? It feels good to look back.

Photos taken by our brothers, Ed Roderick Canuto and Nate Sanchez.

Recently: An afternoon at UP Diliman, and thoughts about “being all there”

| Posted in Married Life, Moments Like This, Recently

I’ve been wanting to do this for a while, but I guess I’ve proven enough in my life that the unplanned trips are the ones that actually push through. So my husband and I took an afternoon trip, on a whim, to my alma mater, and it was gooood.

One afternoon at UP Diliman

One afternoon at UP Diliman

One afternoon at UP Diliman

He did a nice job documenting our afternoon in a post on his Facebook wall, and I thought I’d keep a record of our afternoon date in this blog too. Late lunch at Rodics, Mang Larry’s isaw (craving satisfied!), a walk around the acad oval and sunken garden, a quick stop at the university avenue to take pictures of the sunflowers (because they’re so popular latelythis and this), and a final stop at Razons for some halo-halo (his craving satisfied!) before heading home.

It was an added treat that the College of Engineering was having their graduation ceremony while we were there. It reminded me of my own graduation day, and gave D a little glimpse of how a UP graduation looks like. He was thrilled to see Oblation wearing a sablay, and couldn’t get over why it’s called “sablay” when it symbolizes success, quite the opposite of what the word means in Tagalog. (I couldn’t give an answer.)

One afternoon at UP Diliman

One afternoon at UP Diliman

It’s not the first time I took him there, but something about this particular afternoon that was a little extra special. Maybe because I left a pile of work at home and it felt so liberating to ditch a few tasks and do something on a whim. Or maybe because I’m a little bit older now, and having my husband with me in places like this makes me look back on years past, and how far God has brought me, us.

Being in UP Diliman always brings me this feeling of nostalgia, good memories, and maybe a little tinge of regret. I wish I made the most of that place. I wish I studied better, appreciated being there more. All those days I spent in the UP campus, dragging my feet to my next class, wishing I was somewhere else, and sometimes, wanting to get college over and done with already. If only I knew that college was going to be so quick, I would have slowed down a little and made the most out of my time there.

Not that I didn’t enjoy my college life, I did. I just sometimes wish I practiced a little “being all there” more. There goes my lesson for the day.

The babies were just waking up from their afternoon nap when we got home, it didn’t feel like we were away at all. Recharged, I went back to my desk, checked my email inbox and went over my never-ending list of tasks to see what else I can tick off for the day.

I’m glad we went to UP. I needed a breather, and to be reminded of things that matter. Besides, it was about time I satisfied my isaw craving.

11/52: Full Circle

| Posted in Dawn & Rain, Love Life, Married Life, Moments Like This

Photographs of our daughters, once a week, every week, in 2014. Week 11.

Our little family

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Fernbrook Gardens

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11/52: The four of us, back in the place where this whole journey began.

One Saturday afternoon in March, my husband and I took the twins with us to a wedding at Fernbrook Gardens in Alabang. The wedding was beautiful, and my husband was reunited with some of his friends from New York who were here for the wedding too. What can I say, it’s always good to reunite with old friends and to revisit old places.

Meanwhile, the girls totally loved running around the place! There was so much space for them to explore, new things to see. And in typical mommy-and-daddy-of-twins fashion, we followed them around (often in opposite directions), pulled them here, carried them there, wiped their dirty hands and knees while the ceremony was happening. Anything, as long as you’re happy, darlings.

A nice cool breeze accompanied the golden hour; making it the perfect time to take photographs and to just.. bask in the love and the memories of that place. I longed to tell Dawn & Rain stories of that day, except of course they wouldn’t understand or remember a thing. At least not yet.

It was the same venue of our wedding, almost 3 years ago, and for the first time since then, we’re back.

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We’ve come full circle. Wow.

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How do you handle days like this? It’s one of those days you wish you could just step back and watch your life from afar, rewind and replay over and over again. I was just getting married here! How did it all go so fast?

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Fernbrook Gardens to me will always be a place where dreams happen. Once we were just standing there, committing our lives to each other before God and our loved ones. And suddenly we’re back with these two little girls who happen to be the greatest validation of the decision we made 3 years ago. What a milestone! I’m glad I took lots of photographs. This one’s definitely for keeps.

More about Project 52 here. View all posts in this blog series here.

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